God’s plan is always best…..

15 03 2011



Things are going great for the Ferraro’s.  God always seems to change things right when we think we have them figured out….has this every happened to you?  Well, almost 2 weeks ago I started to throw up…..hummmmmm……..So I went to the Dollar Tree and bought a test.  And it was POSITIVE!!! I almost fell over to be honest. 🙂

So, 12 days later I went to the doctors.  He did an U/S to figure out a due date.  He did the U/S to find a VERY small little baby and heart beat, we were only 5 weeks and 5 days along.  Oh, what a sweet sight seeing that LITTLE heart beat!  God is so amazing on how He creates life! 🙂  That means Dave and I found out only 8 days after conception……oh, I made him promise me there was only one in there, but the dr. said it was too early to tell.  Maybe another little girl, I was super sick with Grace. 😀  It doesn’t matter to us, God sure knows what we need better than we do. 

So our new THING 5 is due November 9th, 2011. 🙂  The dr. and us are being very active in making sure I don’t end up with another 9 lbs.  Ethan had lots of problems with his sugar when he was born and he got stuck. 😦 So we are going to be checking my sugar more often than normal.  I am very happy about this. Please pray for….

Wisdom for the doctors

Health of the baby

Health for me (for me to be able to take care of the kids while being sick)

Planning for our family

Thank you very much!!!!! 😀  WE are very excited to add another wonderful blessing to our family. 😀

How are we doing mamas?

10 12 2009

Something has been on my heart lately.  How am I doing about showing thankfulness and happiness to my children and to those who are lost.  Do I complain about the size of my house? Or do I praise God about our home no matter the size? Do I complain about all the laundry I have to do or do I praise God that I have 5 wonderful people to be doing laundry for?  Am I thankful that we have a warm home and lots of warm clothes to wear in this very cold weather (3 degrees today) or do I complain about how cold it is?  Do I thank God my husband has a job or do I complain that he isn’t home enough?  Am I thankful that we have a T.V and stations or am I discontent that we don’t have a certain sports station or TLC?  Do I praise God that we have laughter, toys on the floor and little feet scampering about the house?  Do I thank God that we have food in the fridge even if it isn’t what I want to eat that night or I am complaining about what we have been given?  Do I thank God for the people He has given us to serve or do I hope to be somewhere else? 

The list can go on and on and on and on and on…..you get the point. 

How are we doing mamas about showing our children how great our GOD is?  Do they hear us complain so much that they don’t think our God is taking care of us?  Are we so unthankful that they don’t want to serve this powerful God?  Our children are watching us!  They will see if we are unhappy and discontent!  They will follow our lead.  “When mama aint happy aint nobody happy” is an old saying, but is VERY true too.

When we do our chores around the house do we say “thank you God for beds to make, we could be sleeping on the ground.  Thank you God that we have good doctors to get Owen better.  Lord you are great to provide us with 3 meals a day and snacks!”  or do our children hear “If I have to fold one more load of laundry, I am sick of this food I want to go out to eat, why can’t we have more money to go out?, I am sick of these toys all over the floors!”

What kind of heart do we have?  What kind of life are we showing to our children and those who are lost?  Would they (our children and those who are lost) even want to hear about our God after spending time with us?  Do we praise Him, respect Him and cherish Him above all. Do we thank Him for all things in all circumstances?

Let us remember that we have little ones watching us!  Let them know that our God is big and supplies all our needs and has taken great care of us!

The Summer Schedule….at least for now.

11 06 2009

One things about schedules is that they change.  So for now we have a schedule that will hopefully work for our family.  I am not a rigid schedule keeper in the summer, so this will be a little vague.  I LOVE summer and love that we have so many things we can do.

7 – 7:30 am Children wake up

7:30 breakfast, get dressed and chores

8:30 run any errands that need to be done

10 am Snack Time

10 am – 11:30 Free time ( swimming, park, outside time, etc.)

11:30 lunch time

12:00 ish til 3 ish Owen nap time (this has gotten earlier now that he runs so much energy off in the morning)

12-1 pm older two do School Skills Time (this is time to doing reading, math workbooks, mazes, handwriting, etc.  Pretty much anything I want them to keep up with over the summer)

1pm- 3 pm Grace nap time

1-2 pm Isaac rest time (he reads, does puzzles etc. laying on the couch)

2-3 pm Isaac video time (this is either T.V. time or Computer Time)

3 pm Snack Time

3-5 pm Free Time (again anything fun we can do in the summer)

5 pm Dinner Time

6 pm-8 pm (Outside things….Church, Tee-Ball, etc)

8 pm Bathtime/Showers, stories, P.J’s etc.

8:30 bedtime for Owen

9 pm bedtime for Grace and Isaac

Now this will change a little from day to day.  If we go to my parents home we will spend the whole day swimming etc, so things change.  In the summer we like to just enjoy doing lots of fun stuff.

Have a great Summer

Potty Training Questions Answered….

10 06 2009

I have gotten a few questions about potty training so I thought I would answer them here.

Our plastic pants leak….any ideas? 

First, let me say that plastic pants will leak.  They are just to help hold in a little pee (like when a child starts to go then stops themselves etc.).  To help with this problem make sure they are snug around the legs.  Sew them if you have to to make the legs tighter.  Use the Gerber training underwear with them.  This will help TONS!  They have a little more fabric to help hold in an accident.

What about going out?  Can you use pull-ups? Do you use them?

I am not anti pull ups.  I think they are great for lots of times when a child will not have a potty near by or when a child is still learning to give you a few minutes warning when they have to go.  After my children have been in underwear for a few weeks and know how to go, when they should go etc. we will use a pull up.  I use them on long car trips, when a potty may not be near, we use them at the grocery store (they always have to go when I am 10 mins. from the nearest potty).  I still take them to the potty, I just understand that developmentally they don’t understand that they need to tell me WAY in advance in these situations to make it on time.

I make sure I take them before we start a trip at the store and I take them again if I am near one.  I don’t wait for them to tell me. I also don’t ask, “Do you need to go pee pee?”  I say, ” Owen, we are going pee pee in the potty now, let’s go”.  This way they don’t have an opportunity to have a choice in the matter.

I use a portable potty seat.  This is amazing and I think all mommies need one!  I got ours at babies r us and have used it for many children and still use it for Grace because she doesn’t stand like Isaac does.  🙂  Ours is just a plain one, but I couldnt’ find a picture of it on-line so the link goes to a character one.

Also, my boys sometimes go on the side of the road if we need them to etc.  They are able to stand and go so we go in the grass if we really need to.  With a girl that is more tricky.

Potty Training…..

5 06 2009

I have been asked by many people to write about how we potty train in our home.  First let me say this is not for everyone.  You need to understand our parenting philosophy before I can write on this topic.  Our home is not a child centered home.  Our children do not pick their bedtimes, what they will eat, what their schedules will be etc.  We are currently moving towards a large family and feel that  a child centered home would not work for us etc.  We also have other reasons why, but that isn’t for this post. 

With that being said….our children don’t tell us when they are ready to potty train, we tell them.  Now, this is the complete opposite of the current worldview on potty training….they say….wait until your child can do these things etc., when your child is ready they will do it etc.  The more and more I see this happen the more and more I see very upset parents!  They don’t understand why potty training is taking weeks or even months, why they still can’t go out in public in underwear at sometimes 3 years of age etc….even older at times.  I feel that a young child that has too many choices will milk it for all it is worth….and this includes potty training.

Now, these are just my options, you may feel different on them and that is fine.  This has worked for us so we will continue with it.  Isaac ( now age 5) was potty trained at 22.5 months, Grace (now 4) was trained at 18.5 months, Owen (now 23 months) was trained 2 days ago.  Each child took between 2-7 days to train.  Isaac took a whole week, but I think it was because he didn’t have older siblings to watch.

We always start training before 24 months of age.  We do it when the child is capable of talking or signing and understands treats.  (which doesn’t take long now a days).  We have some simple rules….NO DIAPERS, NO PULL -UPS and NO GIVING UP for at least 4 days! 

The schedule is simple.  On day 1 you are teaching the child that pee and poo come out of them and that they control it.  On day 2 you are teaching them that it is to go in the potty (or whatever term you use).  On day 3 you are putting it all together to hopefully have a fully trained kid.

DAY 1.

Put your child in underwear (yes you read that right, no pull ups) and rubber pants if you would like.  I highly recommend these for the first few days and for outings after that until no longer needed etc.

Fill your child with as much fluid as you possibly can. (water, juice, milk etc.)

Take your child to the bathroom to pee every 8-10 mins.  Yup, that is right, you won’t being doing much else that day.  Set a timer and every time it goes off take your child.  Have them sit for a short story or song.  Your goal is to “catch” the pee coming out.  Once you catch the pee give them a treat.  A sticker, candy etc.  Make it small because you will be giving out lots over the next few days.  After about the 3rd catch of pee your child will start to realize what muscles it takes to get that pee out.

Now, we do this at a young age, so our children still nap.  At nap-time we lay them in their bed and put on a diaper. (This is the only time they are to wear one).  Once they awake from their nap you need to take that diaper off before leaving the bed and put on underwear right away).

Continue with every 8-10 mins. until dinner time.

DAY 2:

Now day 2 is almost the same as day 1 except you will take them about every 12-15 mins. all day long.  Remember to keep filling them with fluids!!!!  You want them peeing all day long…..this helps them learn the muscles that control their bladder and bowels.  Give a treat for each victory!  Have them call an adult they love etc. Make it lots of fun with lots of smiles!!!!

Day 3

Day 3 is the trial day.  Try to let the child tell you when they need to go, if they haven’t go in about 20-25 mins. then take them.  If they are telling you and having mostly victories then you can start to back off and taking them so much.  If they start to have accidents then take them!    Some children need an extra day or two to learn that muscle.

Day 4-7. 

Slowly start to back off on treats and back off on controlling when they go.  Let them try to tell you. 


You need to have definitions for this.  You can’t call a pen*s a pee pee and them tell them to pee pee in the potty.   You need one word per thing you are talking about….keep it simple.  Example: Isaac go pee pee in the potty.  Good job Isaac.  Etc.

Do not use pull ups even when out and about.  Use the old fashion rubber pants. (We bought Gerber ones).  This will save you the hassle from bring so many extra clothes, but allows your child to feel themselves get wet.

Only use diapers at bedtime.

Do not give up if your child doesn’t get it by day 1.  The first day is LONG and hard on everyone doing this.  But when you catch a few victories they will start to LOVE it!!!!

Involve older siblings if you have them.  In our home if an older child is helping (reading stories while they sit on the potty, reminding them to go, setting the timer, cheering when they go etc) they also get a treat!  This gives mom some extra hands in potty training!  Use those older siblings to your advantage.

Count the victories not the accidents.  Everyday the victory count will go up and the accident count will go down.  Don’t discourage yourself when at the end of day 1 you have 3 victories and 12 accidents.  Just count the victories!  It will make everyone happier.

Follow every step and start between 19-24 months.  We have found that 23 months is almost the perfect age for this!


I have had many parents follow this and many have had great success.  The ones that didn’t have success usually didn’t follow every step.  They picked and choose which step they wanted to do.  That won’t work with this way of potty training.

Summer Time Schedules

27 04 2009

Wow, this nice weather has me re-thinking our schedule.  First, little Owen needs more time to rest with it very quiet.  His room is right outside the swing set so I can’t have the older two playing there while he is sleeping.

Also, my kids are drinking tons more and eating tons more….this means I need more time planned in for meal planning.  We like to have snacks that have a carb, fruit and protein.  This way it stays in their bellies longer and they don’t get hungry as fast.  It also gives them lots of energy etc.

The older two are wanting to do too much in doors even if it is nice out.  It is like they have forgotten how to play outside. 😦  We just had a VERY long winter so it will take some time to find all the summer toys and make it fun again.  🙂  So, I feel like I am saying “go outside, don’t come inside”.  The good part is that they LOVE to do school, so I don’t feel like I am forcing them in their seats.

Isaac is in the mid 60’s for teach your child to read in 100 easy lessons.  He is doing so well and begs me to let him do his lessons!!!!  He gets very upset if he doesn’t do them before bedtime.  I have to make sure we are getting them in everyday so that he doesn’ t have a melt down.  Getting them in can be tricky, Owen has to be asleep and Grace has to be VERY quiet.  Isaac needs that 20 mins. of time to get it down and to learn.

So, I will be working on what our new schedule will look like…..fun stuff I tell you.

Thank you Isaac, Gracelyn and Owen

2 01 2009

Isaac, Gracelyn and Owen,

We want to thank you for being our children.  God has blessed us with three wonderful children during out time in Seminary.  Isaac you were just a baby when we came to SBTS, but God has made you a wonderful boy.  Gracelyn you were our surprise when we moved to Louisville and now you are a sweet preschooler.  Owen what a delight you have been to our family, a fun loving toddler.

We (mommy and daddy) want to tell you thank you!  We want you to know that we realize that not only daddy went to seminary, but our whole family did.  We all had to give up things to help daddy go to school. 

As our thank you to you for being part of our family and for helping daddy go to school we are taking you to Disney World!  Are you ready to board a plane in 3.5 weeks and spend 7 days, 6 nights in a child’s dream?  We hope you are because your daddy and I have been saving and talking about this vacation for several years!

Thank you again kids!  We love you and we hope that you enjoy your time with us in Florida!  We love you guys so much.