Why do you home school?

9 11 2009

What a loaded question!  I get this question often and thought I should make a post on it….mostly just to get my thoughts down on it.

 Homeschooling  is hard!  It wasn’t an easy choice for our family, we have 4 young children (one only a few months old).  After much prayer we decided it was the best choice for us this year.

First we didn’t love the public school our son was to attend.  We didn’t like their school scores, curriculum choices etc.  There was a lot that we didn’t approve of so we decided to look into other options.

After looking into private school we found one we really liked.  It is about 25 mins. from my home.  This is a distance (making it 50 mins. round trip to drop off and 50 mins. round trip to pick up….almost 2 hours a day in the car….almost 10 hours a week!).  This wasn’t a great option for us.  We felt it wasn’t fair to our younger children to be in a car almost 2 hours a day.  They needed time to play, interact and learn themselves.  I can not parent in the car like I can at home with them.  Also, it was costly (even with the pastor discount) for our family. 

Homeschooling seemed like the best choice for us.  I could home school in the same amount of time I would have spent in the car just getting them to school and home.  Now, I get to pick out their curriculum, see them learn, instill some character qualities we wanted for them learn this year (we didn’t feel we would have the time with them in school)  and save money 🙂  My younger children get to interact with us during school and enjoy the many fun things we are doing.  We all get to spend time with daddy when he is home during the week (his schedule is a little crazy some days), we also get to spend time as a family in the evening and not worry about homework 🙂  I know they don’t have a lot of homework in K but we knew it would get more time intensive as the years went on, something we didn’t want to really mess with.

Now, homeschooling is working for us.  This doesn’t mean it is for everyone!  It can be hard some days, it can make you cry some days and want to pull your hair out.  But the days when you get to see it “click” with your child, them look at you and tell you how much they love you and love that you are their teacher, the days you get to watch their minds open up to different world cultures etc. make it all worth it!  It has been an amazing year so far!  One that I am so happy with, God has truly blessed us and we are so happy we have this opportunity with our children!  Thank you Lord, you have been so good to us.


11 12 2008

Perseverance…what does that mean?  I feel that God has shown this character trait in my husband.  Dave has worked so hard over the past 8 years and I am so proud of him and all that the Lord has done in his life.  He stuck it out when times got difficult.

At 18 Dave graduated high school and became engaged (to me of course).  A young man with a heart to be married young and succeed in life…two things that society says doesn’t happen often.  We had so many people say that he would never finish school, he would drop out etc.  Dave said no that would not happen.  We wait 1.5 years to marry and at the age of 20 he and I married.  At the age of 21 he became a father.  Then only 3 months later he graduated with his Bachelors.  He then moved us to Louisville, Ky to dedicated himself to the learning all that he could about ministry so that he could effectively serve Christ in His church.  A year into seminary he became a father again at the age of 23.  He still continued to work hard to provide for us and study.  Two years later and we have our second son at the age of 25.  Now at the age of 26 he is graduating with his Master of Divinity.  He has given so much to us as a father and husband and still has been able to receive his degree.

My husband has persevered when it was hard and I mean HARD.  God continued to give him strength and direction.  He gave up sleep, sports, free time and fun to be the father and husband we needed.  He made sure our needs were met before his own.  He loved us enough to give up everything he had for us.  At Christmas or birthdays he would give me all the gift cards or money he has received and told me to get what the kids and I needed.  He never went and bought things he wanted, he made sure the needs were met first in our home.  He made sure his children knew who he was and that they are loved by him.

I am so proud to say I am his wife! I am so thankful for the man that God gave to me to lead our home and someday lead His church.  God used Dave a young husband and father to do what society says doesn’t happen.  We can’t count the times we were told…if you have kids you won’t finish school or if you do this you won’t get your degree. 

We are so thankful to God for His direction in our lives and home.

Congratulations Dave!  I am so proud of you!  Tomorrow is the BIG day and I can’t wait to see you walk on that stage, I know that I will have tears in my eyes because for a brief moment I will get to see you receive a piece of paper you have worked so long and hard for.  What I can’t wait to see is all the knowledge you bring into a church…that is what I look forward to.  I can’t wait to see how God will use that “piece of paper” for His glory for years to come.

Please Pray.

3 12 2008

I serve a mighty God, one that loves me and cares about me more than anyone else I know.  I ask you to pray to him on behalf of our family and especially for me.  We can’t go into details now, but we ask that you lift us up.  We are praying for His will to be done, which can be hard to take at times! 

I haven’t been able to post much because my house is slowing becoming filled with boxes.  Our home is officially sold and now we are preparing for God’s next step for us.  This is moving along great and we hope to be able to give some details on Thursday some time! 

Because of the move we have had to get really creative with our traditions at Christmas.  This is a BIG month in the Ferraro home.  We count down our days on our advent calendars and we tell the story of Jesus’ coming and second coming each night.  We decorate things for people at work in hopes they will come to know our savior.  It is a fun and busy time of year, with a little extra busy thrown in this year! 

Thank you for your prayers!

Motivated by God or Sin?

2 09 2008

These last few weeks, God has been working at my heart.  What is my motivation?  Why do I do the things I do?  Is it for the glory of God or is it for sin?

Here are somethings that have been on my heart.

Why do I discipline my children?  It should be so that God is glorified.  Sometimes I discipline to look like a “good mommy”.  I want others to see my children and think…”Look at that good mommy, her kids are so well behaved”.  Ouch!  That is the worst thing I could EVER do is bring my children into my sinful world.  I have been praying that when people see my family they think….”wow, something is different about that family!”  and I pray they come and find out that it is because of my relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ and nothing else.

Why do I say  no?  Hummmm, think about that one.  How often do you say no to your children only because you are in the sin of being lazy?  I often say no to finger painting, riding bikes, going swimming etc. ONLY because it is too much work for me and I am lazy!  Now, don’t get me wrong, there are many times we need to say “No” to our children, but it should be to glorify God.  There are times when I need to say “No, we can’t play with play-do right now because mommy is making sure you have a healthy dinner to eat tonight and I can’t do both right now.”  But in general what are my reasons for saying no.

Are my meals healthy and thought out?  Do I take the time to prepare foods that glorify God?  On many nights I want quickly put together something and not plan out a meal.  I want to spend my children’s nap time on the computer or reading instead of in the kitchen preparing a meal that will grow their bodies for God’s glory. 

This is what has been on my heart lately and I just wanted to share it with you.  The list could go on forever, but for now I am taking it one step at a time….I am going to go and take the kids to the Library because they have been asking for a week!  (I really am trying to work on making “Yes” be my natural reaction instead of “No”.  Have a blessed day!

Chicago Cubs Baseball Batting Helmet and Build a Bear

14 05 2008

Isaac and Grace have started to have chores in our home.  Isaac goes around the house and collects all the trash, then takes and puts in the trashcan outside.  Grace goes into Owen’s room and sorts and puts away his toys at the end of the night.  We stated this a few months ago and it is going great.  They each earn one quarter for each day they do their chores.  We then have them give some pennies to Jesus (which they take with them to Sunday School on Sundays) and then the rest is for them.

With the announcement that we were going to Chicago we encouraged them to save their money for a special prize.  Most days they did just that, other days they choose an ice cream from the ice cream truck.  When we got to Chicago the kids had almost 10 dollars each.  They were super excited!

Isaac picked out a Chicago Cubs batting helmet and Grace a Build a Bear bear carrier to wear on her back.  They proudly carried their things around with them the entire weekend.  We didn’t have to worry about them losing them or not taking care of them because they had earned them.  They had to do lots of work to get them and they knew how long it took them to save for their prizes.

This went over so well that we already have them saving for our Disney trip next year.  We are encouraging them to save at least 4 of their quarters a week for this trip.  Another perk is that we don’t have to save for souvenirs, the kids do that themselves!!!  How nice is that?

So Dave and Isaac just went to Home Depot and Isaac is proudly wearing his helmet and Grace is napping with her carrier.