Weight Loss and Goals

27 09 2007

After giving birth to our 3rd child in 3 years this past summer I have been determined to loose the baby weight (and a few extra lbs.). But in this past week I have noticed I am not doing it for all the right reasons. When I look at my heart and really examine it I know that I want to be *skinny* and *look good*. These are NOT God honoring and I am not proud that they has been my heart issue.

Now I started out with the right motives…

1. To be able to run around with my kids and not get tired.

2. To have more energy for my family.

3. To be able to handle a 4th pregnancy easier.

4. To be taking care of the Temple of God, which is my body.

But those motives quickly faded when I started to lose weight. I then wanted to be skinny and look good, not to honor God but to honor myself. I wanted to wear a certain size and have people want to look like me. God really convicted my heart when over the past week I hadn’t lost any weight and I had been working even harder to do it. I than realized my sin.

I have gone back to the original motives. I am no longer going to obsess over a number, but evaluate my progress on the goals and motives I started with. This way I can honor God and my husband.

Have a healthy God honoring day.





It never fails….

24 09 2007

It never fails….

That a baby will cry the moment you lay them down.

The moment you clean the bathroom some little boy will come in and pee all over the place…on accident of course.

That the day before you are getting ready to go on a plane some one comes down with a fever…leaving you wondering if they have an ear infection and calling the dr. begging for drugs….just in case it is and you are 10000 feet in the air with a screaming child.

That the moment you get everyone ready for church someone spills or spits up on their clothes….or better yet all over the mommy!

That the only pair of pants that fit after having a baby are in the dirty clothes the moment you need to go somewhere.

When you get everyone sleeping at the same time someone comes to the door and rings the bell…AHHHH.

The moment you are about to lose your mind you realize that you haven’t had your quiet time and right now is a great time to have one.

A nursing baby will want to eat when a visitor comes over to see them.

Oh having a family is so great!!! I would never change it for the world. What are your “it never fails” ?





Fresh is Best!

23 09 2007

Okay, many of you already know that Fresh is best….fresh what you ask….fresh fruits and veggies.

Now, these take up too much time and cost too much to have everyday all the time…but I have come up with some ways to get my kids to eat more and more often. First, I try to make about 40-50 percent of my grocery budget to be fruits and veggies! That means we have lots around the house for every meal. I buy in season and freeze when possible.

On the day of shopping I cut, peal and package all the fruits and veggies for the week. So, on Monday’s after the kids are napping I wash all the veggies and cut them up for dinners, then put them in big zip lock bags (we use the off brand type) and put them in the fridge. This way when dinner time comes during the week I just pull out how much I want to steam and do it. This saves TONS of time during the week! I also try to have 2 veggies at each dinner and one at lunch. (Have them already cut and ready makes it nice for lunches, you just grab some and serve with some dipping sauce).

For fruits we try to have one with each meal except dinner, and at afternoon snack. This makes sure the kids are getting 3 servings a day. We choose what fruit we are going to get the most off based on the sales for that week. I also buy frozen when needed and put it yogurt or cereal. Canned fruit will work, but we don’t use it often because of the poor nutrition content and sugar.

When veggies are on sale STOCK up! Do what you do on shopping day, but lay them on a cookie sheet and freeze. Then put them in a freezer bag. This way they are individually frozen so you can take out only what you need.

Have fun with all the fruits and veggies this week! You will be surprised how much your kids will eat if they are just around and ready to eat.

Post any ideas you have as well!!!! We would all like to learn from you.





Slave or Serving?

23 09 2007

I often have to look at my schedule and see if I am a slave to it or is it serving me. Being a slave to your schedule is not what it is meant to do, it is meant to serve you and your family.

Let’s look at ways the schedule can serve us….

1. It lets you keep everyone well fed and in good moods. My kids do better if they eat small meals all day long. This keeps their sugar from dropping and having tantrums. My schedule makes sure everyone is eating when they should and eating what they should.

2. It makes sure everyone is getting the rest they need. It is hard on kids to go go go all day long then be expected to behave in a restaurant…they need their rest and us moms need to make sure they are getting it. I see too many very tired little kids being dragged through the mall in the middle of the afternoon while mommy shops. I know we all like to go shopping and go out, but it is our job to make sure our family is getting everything it needs and sleep is one of them. Dr. Mohler, president of the Southern Seminary, talked on this a few days ago on his radio program. Children between 12 and 20 need 9 hours a sleep a day. If you aren’t sure what your children need check with your doctor. For me I can tell my kids need more sleep when they wake up tired or crabby or they are falling asleep before a normal naptime.

3. It helps you make sure everything is getting done around the house. Mom needs rest too, but you can’t get that in very easily if you are stuck trying to catch up on laundry or chores everyday. Make a cleaning schedule and keep to it. This way you can sit down in the afternoon or evening and know that you got everything for that day done.

4. It makes sure we are serving God! This is the most important way it can serve us. We need to make sure we are putting ministry in our schedule and keeping to it.

5. It helps unite your family together. Kids should know that the world does not revolve around them. Letting them see that everyone has a place on the schedule helps them work on sacrifice. Sometimes mommy has “mommy time” and the kids have “daddy time”. Everyone is important and needed for our family to run.

How does the schedule enslave us…

1. We NEVER allow the schedule to change to fit our family life or daily changes. Things come up and we need to change the schedule.

2. We don’t go anywhere because it doesn’t fit the schedule….even on nice sunny days. After a long winter we should take advantage of nice days and get outside. Even if it isn’t on the schedule we should go do it. We have grandparents or family in town we let the schedule go for a few days. Some days just don’t need a schedule and that is okay once in a while.

3. We become legalistic and demanding. Our husbands don’t need us telling them what to do because of a schedule. My kids go to bed around 8:30, but when daddy puts them to bed it is usually closer to 9 or 9:15. That is okay, daddy can do that, he is head of the house…not the schedule.

Okay…enough with schedule you are probably thinking. I have good reason for this, I see way too many woman not running their homes like we are called to in scripture. I fall into this category as well way too often, but I don’t want to keep doing that, I want to learn to do better and be a better wife and mommy. I have found that having a schedule helps me do that.

I hope you have put into place a family schedule and if you haven’t I hope you do. If you already have one make sure it is serving you and not you serving it.





Friends

18 09 2007

We have been at seminary for almost 3.5 years and during this time we have met some wonderful godly friends. The type of friends that stick with you through life, ones you call when someone gets sick or there is a new bundle in the home. Friends that you call when you need prayer or a shoulder to cry one. Friends that you go running to and ones you travel to go see (even when you have to tote 3 kiddos along for hours in the car).

This is going to be the hardest thing to leave when we leave seminary. Many of these people have been with me during my first year of parenting, potty training, pregnancy, deaths, fears, joys, labor, birth, home schooling, spiritual growth and drought, good times and not so good times. I have shared in their lives as I have watched them become parents and grown in their marriages and their walk with God.

Now we are coming to an end in the next year here at seminary. These are the years I will remember with many stories to my children and other woman in ministry. I know I will be making calls to many of them to ask about ministry and to share with them.

This post is coming after Dave and I were talking about a camping trip we are planning in October with the Cochran family. We have camped with them in May and the men and boys all went in August. We always have such a great time when we are with them. I mentioned to Dave that this might be the last camping trip with them for a long time so we really need to make it happen. You see we may leave seminary for a job and they may be leaving for the Mission Field. (By the way Anna Lee, Dave said that we can come visit no matter where you are!).

This has got me thinking about friends at seminary and why it is so hard to leave. I guess it is because we know that many of the people we may not see for years or until we meet in Heaven again. That realization is hard, harder than thinking about my children growing old.

Friends are a true gift from God, and I am so thankful for my seminary friends that have pushed me to learn more and to grow more. Who have helped me with parenting or life. I am going to take in every moment I have with these friends knowing it is a short time. I will miss this season of my life, but look forward to the coming seasons as well.





True Unconditional Love

14 09 2007

Many of you may be reading this and say…”yes, I have felt true unconditional love”, the love maybe for a parent, a child or a grandparent. But many of us will never have to put that love to the test and I pray that I will never have to.

There is one woman out there that has shown me the true meaning of unconditional love and her name is Rebecca Berry. One of my first friends I made here when we moved and one that I pray I will always have. Rebecca is a loyal friend, one that you can always call on, one that puts her friends first. She and her husband were the ones to care for my son when we were in labor with our second. She is a very dear friend to me.

She and her husband have been struggling to conceive a child for years. And just yesterday they have been united with their son that was conceived in their hearts almost 10 months ago when they got the news that they had been chosen as his parents. Elisha Berry was born in Taiwan in Sept. of 2006 and is a very happy sweet baby. The events leading up to yesterday’s uniting are God honoring and God driven, only He could have orchestrated the timing of them coming together as a family. Just this past Aug. Rebecca and Donnie were told that they would not be able to bring Elisha to the United States because the USA would not issue him a visa because his birth mother could not be found. And until she signed some papers they would not accept the adoption (even though it had been approved in China) to Rebecca and Donnie. They would issue one if she was unfound for 1 year (which would be 1 year from July 2007 I believed and choose to sign the papers) or if they (Rebecca and Donnie) lived there for 2 years. They have such a true unconditional love for Elisha they were ready and willing to move there and raise him until they could bring him home here. Their devotion for their child reached farther than their love for their home, car, things or jobs. They saw the situation and knew that God would work it out in His timing and in His way, and let me tell you HE did!

Now, they are in Taiwan brining their baby boy home. He may not have been conceived in her womb, but in her heart long before she ever knew him. She showed her faith in God to many and she has taught me many lessons about being a mother long before she was one. For years she has been teaching me and now the lessons continue as I watch her bring her son home.

Many of use will never have to think about leaving everything we know to raise our child, but we can still learn from the Berry family and their commitment to each other, their family and God’s will for their life. Have we truly made an unconditional love commitment to our Father in heaven? Have we decided in our hearts that we will go to where He wants us to go even if it isn’t fitting or what we ever dreamed of? Rebecca and Donnie made their commitment long before they knew all the circumstances; they are true examples of Unconditional love in my book.





Bits and Pieces

10 09 2007

Well, it has been a few days since I have posted and we have been busy. So here are some things that have happened over the past few days….

1. My mom is coming in for a few days….YEAH. Which means I might not have too many posts.

2. We ran out of pull ups so poor Isaac and Grace had to wear diapers to bed….this is a big deal to a big 3 year old. So I am making a run to Sam’s Club in the morning.

3. I have lost 3 lbs. this week…I am very excited. It will slow down now that I have had a good jump start.

4. Owen has Thrush…poor baby and so that means I do as well. We are both on antibiotics for it….oh it is like nursing while on fire.

5. The kids have started back at Gymboree and LOVE it. We are loving seeing all our friends again.

6. School is going great with the kids, we are just trying to figure out how much is too much and at what times they do best with. Isaac is reading a few words so that is so exciting.

7. Owen is going through a growth spurt so he is up eating around 2 am again…hopefully not for long!

8. Dave is working about 43 hours per week and trying to keep up with another Greek class and preaching. He is handling it well, some nights he doesn’t even go to bed! He is very devoted to making sure we see him during the daylight hours.

That is about all that is going on. We are busy with our little ones, but hanging in there none the less.